• Questioner says:

    "for some it is here that they decide with a more stable certainty that they do not want to return to their marriage."

    Can you expand more on this particular stage? And this line in particular? Would this be construed as a BD2, and if so, does that decrease the odds of the MLC spouse returning to the LBS?

  • Questioner says:

    I am at 2.5 years post BD with a LE wallower. At that time he announced he wanted to leave me, but not for someone else, and we remained in regular contact. Obsession with work and lots of overt depression, but no OW up until a couple weeks ago. Then was when my MLCer stated he was leaving me for his old high school girlfriend. I had actually thought things were slowly but surely improving on a friendly level between us up until that point. Hence my previous question.

  • evans says:

    it is almost 5yrs that he is involved with her and 4yr4mnths that he is living with her. He is very impressed with her obsessive behaviour and he is leaning 2wards ocpd as well. He has been visting a lot the past 2 wks even buying me a new bed but he is stil far from ending it on that side. We went shopping 2gether. He tuk us 4 breakfast only 2 ow out the following day. It his moms bday and she is on holiday with her pet son and that is eating away at him this morning. Very subdued and sound depressed. His late father was proud of him but died prematurely and his moms visits were more infrequent. We live a few streets away from the brother, yet she never comes around to see our children even tho they are adults , i believe these are factors which drove my husband to ow. She goes out of her way to spoil him and make him happy. Neglecting her duties as a mom ther4 her teenage daughter just had a baby. My husband hates babies, i thought this would send him packing, but he is stil clinging. He voiced the other day again how babies should be killed and thrown over a wall and i knew that the crying of a baby is driving him insane. Why can he not walk out on this bizarre situation if he could walk out om a stable marriage of 27yrs at the time

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