• orwhatyouwill says:

    RCR, I read a book about forgiveness a couple years ago that I liked… Forgive for Good by Fred Luskin. Have you seen it? It gave me some good things to think about.

    Good luck with your move.

  • Thanks!
    The author's name sounds familiar–and I will certainly check it out. I could have it–but the only books I didn't pack are from my Relationship/Psych/Counseling and midlife shelves. The forgiveness shelf was just below those. So I will look at the link and maybe Amazon to see if it rings a bell.
    Since the books are packed I can't think of the author's names and titles of the top of my head, but there was one author I really liked–I reference him in my MS and the forgiveness page at the main site…let go look at the MS, and get his name.
    Robert D. Enright, "Helping Clients Forgive: An Empirical Guide for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope"
    I've got others–and that one is pretty academic as I recall, but I really liked the definition his research team came up with.

  • Tony says:

    All well and good but what I have learnt about personality disorders and emotional sociopaths means that you can potentially keep forgiving and keep being abused. Reading about sociopathic denial, lack of empathy and conscience and their techniques for manipulating others…be careful who you allows back into your life. "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me, fool me 3 times???"

    • Rollercoasterider says:

      Forgiveness does not require reconciliation and I those with NPD are one of my concerns when it comes to Standing. I will support a Stander's choices, but must admit that the few cases that seem true NPD rather than just showing such behaviors during MLC were ones I did not advise Standing and I gave warnings. In the situation that had me most worried I was at least relieved that for a time they were separated by the Atlantic and even when both were in country he was distant. He scared me because he showed a tendency toward violence with both his LBS and his daughter. I did not hear from the LBS very much after my post to her and do not know how she took it other than that she seemed to continue Standing.

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