October 2023
September 2022
December 2021
September 2020
August 2020
- 29: Get Off the Doormat and Risk Now for Later (0)
- 22: Stay Away from the Desperation Doormat, Take Back your Power and Thrive (0)
- 14: Standing for You is About Acceptance of You (0)
June 2020
May 2020
- 22: Speaking Your Spouse’s Love Language is an Organic Way to Open Communication and Foster Connection Without Scaring Them Away (0)
- 08: What Does Your Body Language Say About Your Fear? (0)
- 01: Why Your Fear-Based Behaviors are Holding You Back (0)
April 2020
March 2020
- 22: How to be at Peace to Have Greater Control (0)
- 15: Is Closure Overrated, Do You Really Need It? (0)
- 05: Stop! Sending the ‘Why Me?’ Email is a Big Mistake (0)
February 2020
- 27: You’re Not Asking for Peace (0)
- 20: Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative Behaviors (0)
- 13: Betrayal Trauma – How Has Betrayal Traumatized You? (0)
- 06: Is it Cake-Eating if you Do Stuff with or for your MLCer? (0)
January 2020
December 2019
- 31: Paving the Way: Becoming Your Best Self (0)
- 17: What is The Purpose of Paving the Way? (0)
- 11: Can Paving the Way Control the Outcome? (1)
November 2017
- 10: Setting Effective Boundaries (0)
- 05: Determining Your Boundaries (0)
October 2017
- 26: Boundaries: A Basic Introduction (0)
- 13: Tough Love, Tender Love (0)
- 11: Rebirth and Reintegration (3)
August 2017
- 01: Exit Affair Vs. Midlife Crisis (1)
October 2016
February 2016
- 28: The No Contact Boundary: Beware (10)
December 2015
- 03: Change Comes From Growth (2)
November 2015
- 24: Financial Protection While Standing (1)
- 10: Code of Self-Respect (1)
August 2015
- 17: Is My Situation an Exception to Standing? – And Other Questions (7)
- 08: What Makes an Affair Down? (9)
May 2015
- 25: Detachment Versus Distancing (3)
January 2015
- 03: Greener Grass and More Questions (8)
December 2014
September 2014
- 07: Authentic Self or Midlife Crisis? (11)
- 01: Walk-Away Wife Versus Midlife Crisis (16)
July 2014
June 2014
May 2014
January 2014
November 2013
September 2013
August 2013
July 2013
- 22: No Contact: Clearing Up the Confusion (12)
- 08: What is Paving the Way? (6)
- 03: Midlife Crisis: Do MLCer’s Return to Normal and Come Home? (35)
June 2013
- 30: Midlife Crisis Isn’t Forever, Time Yield Expectations (18)
- 19: The Divorce is Final and My Ex is Happy, Why Shouldn’t I Give Up? (5)
- 02: Is Saving My Marriage Even Possible? (6)
May 2013
March 2013
- 29: How to Tell Your Story (12)
- 27: Covert Reassurance (2)
- 25: Should you Agree to Divorce as a 180 Tactic? (9)
- 11: Why Did I Believe It Was Over? (3)
February 2013
- 25: It’s the Marriage, Stupid! (7)
- 21: What Happens When You Meet an Archetype and Discover She is Real? (18)
- 19: Sins of the Analyst (0)
- 17: Discussion: The Survival Papers (Book I and II) By Daryl Sharp (1)
January 2013
- 31: Fear of Loss: Boundary Setting and Enforcement (11)
- 29: How Do You Know When You Have Established Reassurance? (9)
- 27: Establishing Reassurance (11)
- 23: Can an Affair Make A Marriage Stronger? (7)
- 02: Misconceptions About Standing, Part IV (2)
December 2012
- 26: Misconceptions About Standing, Part III (1)
- 19: Misconceptions About Standing, Part II (0)
- 17: Misconceptions About Standing, Part I (1)
- 06: Empirical Midlife Studies and the Backlash Against Midlife Crisis (7)
- 02: Reflection of a Sinner (2)
November 2012
- 30: Spiritual Leaders & Sacrifice: Who Pays? (2)
- 29: Following Your Bliss & Narcissus (4)
- 26: Accepting Our Sinful Self Part II (2)
- 25: Accepting Our Sinful Self Part I (12)
- 23: Realm of Responsibility (2)
- 21: Overpowered (7)
- 19: Judgment (6)
- 15: Forgiveness: A Radical Concept (4)
- 12: Who is Your Guide? (7)
- 11: When Cheaters Explain (8)
- 10: Can Your Marriage Survive Your Truth? (17)
October 2012
- 21: Why Stand? (1)
- 18: Book Review: When Good People Have Affairs Part III (1)
- 17: Book Review: When Good People Have Affairs Part II (2)
- 16: Book Review: When Good People Have Affairs Part I (2)
September 2012
August 2012
July 2012
- 31: Alternate Attachment: How You Still Aren’t Detached (0)
- 29: Midlife Crisis, What Are The Odds? Part II (3)
- 28: Midlife Crisis, What Are The Odds? (1)
June 2012
- 01: Can an MLCers Actions be Undone? (0)
May 2012
- 22: Being the Exception cont’d (1)
- 21: Being the Exception (0)
- 13: A Mother’s Day Tribute: For Mamma (0)
- 10: Rebuilding Together (0)
- 06: Truth Darts (20)
- 03: Mirror-Work (2)
- 01: Be! (0)
April 2012
- 22: Accommodater (11)
- 20: Antihero (3)
- 18: The Stress Coping Styles (0)
- 16: Low-Energy: Wallow, Life’s Pity Party (21)
- 15: Intermittent Liminality (0)
- 13: Limbo: The Threshold Between Phases (3)
- 11: Types of Trust (0)
- 09: Trust & Loyalty (0)
- 06: Can Trust Be Rebuilt? (1)
- 04: My MLCer’s Keeper (2)
- 02: When is it Real? (14)
- 01: Premature Returns (4)
March 2012
- 29: MLCers Meet Marital Warning Signs (1)
- 27: Hope, Expectations & Probability Part II (3)
- 26: Hope, Expectations & Probability Part I (1)
December 2011
- 22: Mary Believed (3)
- 21: Book Review: A Year and Six Seconds: A Love Story – Part II (0)
- 19: Book Review: A Year and Six Seconds: A Love Story – Part I (0)
- 18: Book Review: Happens Every Day An All-Too True Story (0)
- 14: Book Review: Crossing the Soul’s River – A Rite of Passage for Men (2)
- 08: It’s Harder for Me Than it is for You (0)
- 06: Divorce Happens! (6)
- 05: Liminality: Questions & Answers (4)
- 03: Stop Fearing Monster! Part II (0)
- 01: Stop Fearing Monster! Part I (0)
November 2011
- 24: Gratitude for Adversity (0)
- 09: Bashing Versus Venting (0)
October 2011
- 28: Sacred Rest (0)
- 26: Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal, Part IV (0)
- 25: Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal, Part III (0)
- 24: Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal, Part II (0)
- 23: Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal (1)
- 15: My Grandma was Grace (0)
September 2011
- 22: Advice for Advising Part II (0)
- 21: Advice for Advising Part I (0)
- 02: The Clinging Boomerang Soap Opera Part II (1)
August 2011
- 31: The Clinging Boomerang Soap Opera (0)
- 17: Why Your Questions Are Important (0)
- 13: Separating to Be Together (0)
- 03: Learning from Gender Advantages (0)
July 2011
- 25: Bitter or Better (1)
- 06: Crumbs of Hope Between Lies (0)
June 2011
- 30: The Coalition for Divorce Reform (4)
- 29: What is Bomb Drop? (7)
- 26: Will the MLCer Marry the Alienator? (7)
- 24: The Middle Passage: Embracing Versus Avoiding Part 2 (2)
- 22: The Middle Passage: Embracing Versus Avoiding Part 1 (2)
- 20: Influence: Making a Difference (4)
- 15: Is Divorce Just a Piece of Paper? Part 2 (0)
- 14: Is Divorce Just a Piece of Paper? (2)
- 12: Mixed Messages and Cycling (7)
- 09: The Newbie Mentoring Program (24)
- 07: Exhaustion (0)
- 05: Stress Response III (0)
- 03: Stress Response II (0)
- 01: Stress Response I (3)
May 2011
- 30: Emergency Response (2)
- 29: Should My MLCer Stay or Go? (21)
- 24: Creative Visualization (1)
- 21: Prayer is not Passive (3)
- 18: What’s In A Name? (0)
- 15: Survival Instructions for Newbies (0)
- 12: Infidelity, The Balloon Walk (2)
- 08: Love: Foundations and Seeds (6)
- 05: Infidelity Statistics (12)
- 03: Hypnosis: Don’t Think of the Color Blue (5)
April 2011
- 26: Stop Calling Her a Mistress! (10)
- 23: Meditation II: Focuses & Objects (0)
- 21: When Your MLCer is the Pursuer and You are the Distancer (16)
- 18: Meditation I: Focus & Redirection (0)
- 15: Midlife Crisis: Should it be Renamed? (8)
- 13: Dr. Phil: Design a Midlife Crisis Episode! (1)
- 12: Dr. Phil Guests Elaine and Miles: Where’s the Love? (0)
- 11: Does Dr. Phil Understand Midlife Crisis? (0)
- 10: Dr. Phil Midlife Crisis Episode: Questions & Answers (2)
- 09: Dr. Phil’s Midlife Crisis Episode: My Feelings About the Show and Guests (0)
- 08: Go Around (1)
- 05: The Case Against Return Statistics (7)
- 01: What I did…as a Stander (4)
March 2011
- 29: Affirmations: Thinking is Believing (2)
- 28: The Meditation Challenge (2)
- 23: Does Separation Help with Appreciation? (19)
- 22: Lent is Liminal (1)
- 19: Is Your MLCer a Victim of the Big Bad Alienator? (22)
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